INDEED LIFE ISN'T FAIR AND IT WILL NEVER BE (PART 2)

One day squirrel, hare and eagle used to be very good friends. They
used to live together, go out together and did everything together.
Everyone had his own duties to ensure their lives run effectively,
squirrel's duty was to go and collect firewood for cooking, eagle's
duty was to go and fetch water, while cooking was hare's mandate.

One day, squirrel thought to himself "This work I am doing is too much
for me. I cant be carrying these bunches of firewood alone while hare
is sitting down and cooking". Eagle also thought in the same way. So
the three friends had a meeting and decided to swap responsibilities.
Squirrel said he would like to be cooking, eagle said collecting
firewood was his interest while hare was contended with his new job of
fetching water.

As soon as they had shifted to their new duties, their friendship and
lives were closely coming to an end. Eagle found it was hard for him
to cut the firewood and he was risking his life, so one day a tree
fell on him and he died. Squirrel found it was risking for him to
cook, due to that, he fell into a soup that he was stirring and died.
Hare drowned as he was trying to lift a bucket of water.

Many are times where we wish to be someone else other than ourselves.
The reason for that, is because we want live the luxurious, happy
social life the other person is living not knowing that we cant fit in
their shoe.

As I said life is not fair and it will never be, it is the whole truth
because not everyone will be given the same challenge in life. But the
common denominator is that whether you like it or not, everyone must
face challenges in day-to-day basis. Though the challenges might be
different, they are of equal magnitude.

So before you wish to be someone else, ask yourself can you fit in
his/her shoes?

INDEED LIFE ISN'T FAIR AND WILL AND WILL NEVER BE

Early last week, I was in a chemistry class and I was learning about
bonding. Bonding is a process whereby elements react with other
elements to form compounds. For example, Sodium reacts with Chlorine
to form Sodium Chloride which is the normal salt that we use on daily
basis.

There are three main types of bonding, Covalent, Ionic and Metallic.
But today my main focus is on Ionic bonding, this type of bonding is
whereby electrons are transferred from one atom to another in order to
gain stability, thus means one atom has to lose electrons in the outer
energy level, so that the other atom gains them.

If that is not unfairness, I don't know what it is. Because how can
Sodium which has eleven electrons lose the outer electron, so that
Chlorine which has seventeen electrons gains it.

Indeed as the holy book says "The one who has a little, even that a
little will be taken away". That is the sweetness of life! Because if
it wasn't fair, for sure it would boring. Just imagine if everybody
had everything they wanted, we would even be anti social, after all we
have everything.

Life is unfair in the sense that everyone has his/her unique talent
which I term as 'unfair advantage'. The reason why I call it that is
because what am able to do, is not necessary you know how to do it. I
may be good in business, which you are not. You may be excellent at
law, for which I'm not! That right there is unfair advantage. What
does that imply? It implies that we need each other and no human being
can stand alone! You may need something which I have and I may also
need something which you have.

We have all agreed everyone has an unfair advantage, so what are we
supposed to do with it? We need to maximize it to the fullest. If you
love music, do it with all passion. If it is swimming, swim as you
will never swim again. Do what you are passionate about with all your
might, and eventually you will succeed!

ONE SOURCE OF INCOME; DANGER AHEAD!!!

Many of us have been brought up knowing there is always one source of income and that is through education. We used to be told “Go to school and make your future bright” and we went and everyone was aiming to get a good grade and be number one in class.
 

Once a person failed, he/she was considered to be useless in the society, even the parents/guardian get angry at the individual. I remember when I was in primary school, one day I didn’t get the marks which I was aiming, and I had told myself that if I’ll  not get this points am aiming for, then am not capable of doing anything great. That day I cried even the teachers asked me what’s wrong.

But we shouldn’t put all our mentality on education alone, there are other ventures that we can prosper in. I’m not trying to dismiss the fact that education is key to success here; all am trying to imply is that education shouldn’t be the only way we know way to be prosperous.

Yes, we went to school and probably we are in campus; we are waiting to graduate so that we venture into the professionalism. Do you want to tell me you will only rely on that job the rest of life? No! We have to find other sources of income to boost our gross earning.

And that is why a lot of our youths are crying “oh there is unemployment”, it’s just because they don’t want to find something else to do rather than what they are trained for. For a moment let me ask, do you want to tell me that all the students in the University of Nairobi will get their profession job?  Keep in mind the 

University of Nairobi is not the only university we have in Kenya.

Let’s be realistic here, a normal university has a population of around 1,000 students doing a particular course in a certain year. And we have around 50 courses, mathematically speaking that is 50,000 students in a particular year. And there are always four groups; first, second, third and fourth years. In simple terms am saying, in a span of 4 years 200,000 students graduate from a single university,  keep in mind averagely we have 40 universities in Kenya.

It is so unrealistic to say after every four years there will be eight million job vacancies. That’s why I’m saying education is not the only way one can succeed in life, even though it is believed by many to be the only way.

Today, many university’s students waste a lot of their time when they are off the curricular program; long vacation for example. All they think about is going to parties, instead of finding ways to generate income. They only use their parents’ money recklessly.

The reason why I say one source of income is a danger zone is  that the net salary from any professional job will never make anyone wealthy! And if it does, probably not on planet earth because any gross salary is almost directly proportional to one’s spending, and I can prove it.       

 Let’s say I earn Ksh 80,000, I pay my house rent around 30,000.  I’m left with 50,000, probably I have two kids and they both go to school and the fee for the both of them is around 20,000. Maybe food and clothing is around 10,000. Other unexpected costs may incur and that maybe around 10,000. For transportation cost can be around 5,000 and finally maybe I want to take my family to have fun and I spend 5,000. 

And that’s how my 80,000 got finished without even saving. This comes to my conclusion that gross salary no matter how much it is, is equal in everyone hand. Furthermore, it is directly proportional to what you will spend that particular month.  

So don’t ever rely on one source of income, you could start a small business to boost your income at the end of the month. It doesn’t have to be big, because small bits when they many they make up one huge magnificent thing.

WHY DO WE DETER GOD FROM BLESSING US?

All of us desire to live a good life; we want to enjoy it to the fullest before we die. There is no one who wants to live miserably; even the laziest of people want to be rich. That’s why every weekday we go to school/work so that in the future we maybe stable financially.

Riches and poverty are all within everyone’s capability, it all depends with one’s mindset. If one can decide to be wealthy and work tirelessly towards that, he or she will become wealthy. But if the person has no vision and he/she is lazy, becoming wealthy will be a dream that was dreamt two century ago!

Sometimes we often have different goals that we intend to achieve within a specific span of time. But we often think we don’t have that capability to accomplish that dream. That’s a lie; because everything we need to achieve something is within our reach.

Thinking positively is not just enough; also one has to make a number of risks. A risk is an exposure to the    chance of injury or loss. This means there is a possibility of something bad happening, it doesn’t imply that bad thing must occur.

Many of us don’t want to risk because we fear to fail; that’s not true because not every time you risk you will fail. You can risk and be successful. Furthermore, if  all risks would always bring negative outcomes, people wouldn’t be risking.

This reminds me of Abram; God had told him to leave his family in Ur and go to the land of Canaan where no one knew him at all! Lets be frank here; if it were you, would you go? I guess very few people would accept to go.

That was a worthy risk because God blessed him in that place and gave him a son. I highly suspect if Abraham had refused, he wouldn’t be referred  as the father of faith.

There are certain things that we hold on to and they will deny us our blessings. We often think if we let go of

this particular thing,we wont survive. That is the spirit of fear that the enemy is trying

to put in us so that we stick to one place for a long time.

There things in our lives that wont change until we take up some risks! Let me ask you, when you go to

sleep, how sure are you that you will wake up the next day? That is a risk that we take every

night without knowing.

Now we cant say that we will not sleep because we are not sure if will wake up the next day. That is

absolutely nonsense!Because we need to sleep so that our mind may have enough rest

and be fresh the next day.

This reminds me the story of David and Goliath; Goliath was a very big giant and he came to challenge the

nation of Israel! Saul and his army were wondering whom do they send to go to brawl

with this big monster.

They had stayed there forty days and forty nights, but there was a small boy from the family of Jesse who

had came to bring food to his brothers. This boy heard that there was a giant who had been

challenging them.

David told the king he was ready to face the challenge; his eldest brother Eliab tried to discourage him but he

refused to listen to the negative words and went ahead and killed Goliath.

Sometimes we often want God to bless us and yet we still hold on to some mischievous behaviours. Never 

expect to be wealthy and yet you always spend money on prostitutes! Why don’t you use

that money to start a business?

There are many people who are struggling financially, not because they are poor, these people even have

assets which are worth millions of money which they do not help them. These people fear

selling the assets hence they say “businesses are too risky these days”.

Now I wonder if a person doesn’t eat because he/she insinuate that every food is poisonous, how does

he/she expect to grow? Life is all about risks, if people don’t want risk then they should

stop admiring a wealthy life!

WHAT KIND OF FRIENDS DO YOU ENTERTAIN?

 

“Show me your friends and I will tell you the kind of person you are” is a saying that has been there since the early age. It means that your friends can greatly influence your character, good morals, thoughts, or even your financial status.

If most of your friends do drink, the chances of you starting to drink are very high no matter how saved you are! Because at first instances you will definitely refuse, but as time passes by you will see drinking as a normal thing.

I know we all need friends, but we also need to develop some strict standards for them. Not everyone who comes into your life can help you reach your destiny! Some people are just there to waste your time and act as a tool of destruction.

There is something called “friend0s categories” that can help you determine who is adding value to you or not. There are four categories to it namely; family, best friend, friends and other people. Now lets analyse each category and the people who should be there.

Family members are the most precious gift that God gave to us. They range from; mum, dad, brothers, sisters, cousins, grandparents, aunties and uncles. This category is closed; this means the people who are in this group are related to you by blood and genes.

Not everyone in your family can be your friend, what does this mean? It means that inside the family there are also “friends categories”, from the best relative to the other relatives.

The reason why I say not everyone in your family can be your friend is that some family members can be poisonous. Surprisingly, your own brother may turn against you and decide to kill you.

The second category is your best friend; this type of a person who accepts you the way you are without any conditionality. He/she always gives you morale when you feel discouraged. I can say this person is like your destiny helper.

I don’t deny the fact that some of us maybe having more than one best friend, but there is that one person who you can run to anytime you need him or her. Its very rare for this person to disappoint you at any instance.

 

Everyone in this world has this kind of a friend, and it’s hardly to find best friends not communicating for more than four days. So it’s our responsibility to pray for them and do anything possible within our ability to keep these people because when one loses this kind of a friend, it will be next to impossible to find another one.

The third category is open in such a way anybody can come in go out but with conditions. These are friends who believe in you and rectify you when you go wrong, a good friend  MUST rebuke you when he/she thinks that you are doing something that is unacceptable in the society.

Now its upon you to discern and decide which friends you should give a vacuum of tolerance. Because there are people who don’t deserve your company at all! Even Jesus had to choose twelve people to help him with his ministry.

You cant expect to be wealthy, and yet most of your friends are poor. They wise say “if you walk with nine poor men, be careful you don’t be the tenth one”. This is nothing than the whole truth because there is influence in friends.

The last category is the category of other people; in this group people can come in and out but no conditions are taken to considerations. These are people who don’t add any value in your life, they are just there to distract you from reaching your destiny.

We need to know who should be in which group; because people have different character and that is who they are.

JUST LET GO AND LET GOD

All of us have that one special thing that we treasure in our lives, we love that thing to much to a point we think we cant live without it. Maybe it’s a family member, money, a car or even your closest friend ever popularly known as best friend.

One might say “I can’t live without this thing”, that is a total lie because the only three things an individual cant live without is God, food and oxygen. All others are just supplements to enable us to live a better life.

We have all agreed that we all have that very special thing we treasure, we have also agreed that the only three  things we cant live without is God, food and oxygen. Now do you agree that you can live without that special thing you treasure?

Your car can get accident anytime anywhere and be crashed completely! One of your family members might get sick and suddenly die! Your best friend might decide one day to leave you after many years of building on your friendship together! Unexpected might happen anytime anywhere. I know you are wondering “did Brian come to prophesy bad things or what?” No! It is just the way life is.

I know it’s painful when you lose something valuable, but lets talk the bitter truth, you have or you will lose it at some point in your life! Maybe it will go for a season or even forever, but we shouldn’t be negative mentality because everything work for good to those who love the LORD.

Now let’s look at those things which leave our lives for just a season. This things are kind of stuff that I can say that they are very vital in our lives. They go so that we might learn from our mistakes so next time we might know how to handle them.

These things always leave us when we need them most; perhaps you wanted to tell your loved one something special the next day. Unfortunately, something just happens all of a sudden and causes both of you to disagree that night. (That’s why I always tell people there is no perfect time to say something, when you have the opportunity just tell them because you don’t know what may transpire the next minute.).

This reminds me about the story of Joseph, he had dreamt his brothers together with his parents will one day bow before him. When his brothers heard about the dream, they got envious and decided to sell him to the Egyptians.

After a while, Pharaoh’s wife falsely accused him and he was taken to jail. Joseph lost his loved ones and his freedom without any substantial reason, in fact in the Bible we don’t see any record of wrong deed associated with him

What encourages me is that the story didn’t end there; Joseph came out and not only did he regain his freedom, he was also made the Prime Minister of Egypt. Years later, his family came to Egypt and they lived happily there after.

God cannot take away something you treasure if he don’t have a better plan, NEVER! Job lost his family and wealth, but in the end God gave him back what he had lost in double measures both in quantity and in quality.

Now lets go to those things that leave our lives for good, these are the type of things don’t matter in our lives! It is extremely painful to lose them but in the end you will realize it opened the door to your destiny.

They leave us to pave way for a much better thing, in fact your destiny is too great to entertain such a small things. There is no way an electrician might remove a motherboard from a laptop, if he/she has no a better motherboard to fix it.

This tickles my mind to remember the story of David; he committed adultery with Bathsheba and she bore him a son. God was so angry with him and caused the child to be sick. When David saw the child had gotten ill, he prayed, fasted, cried to God to heal the child. A week later, he lost his son. This teaches us no matter how we pray God to save something, if it is no his will, definitely we will have to lose it!

The Bible continues to say David later slept with his wife Bathsheba and they had another son called Solomon. Remember it is through that lineage that Jesus came from.

So what are you holding so tightly, let it go and let God have his way. Yes I know it is painful, but what if it wasn’t meant to be, will you mourn the rest of your precious life? No! So now get up, wipe those tears, and say “if God doesn’t bring back what I lost, certainly he will give me a better thing!”