WHAT KIND OF FRIENDS DO YOU ENTERTAIN?

 

“Show me your friends and I will tell you the kind of person you are” is a saying that has been there since the early age. It means that your friends can greatly influence your character, good morals, thoughts, or even your financial status.

If most of your friends do drink, the chances of you starting to drink are very high no matter how saved you are! Because at first instances you will definitely refuse, but as time passes by you will see drinking as a normal thing.

I know we all need friends, but we also need to develop some strict standards for them. Not everyone who comes into your life can help you reach your destiny! Some people are just there to waste your time and act as a tool of destruction.

There is something called “friend0s categories” that can help you determine who is adding value to you or not. There are four categories to it namely; family, best friend, friends and other people. Now lets analyse each category and the people who should be there.

Family members are the most precious gift that God gave to us. They range from; mum, dad, brothers, sisters, cousins, grandparents, aunties and uncles. This category is closed; this means the people who are in this group are related to you by blood and genes.

Not everyone in your family can be your friend, what does this mean? It means that inside the family there are also “friends categories”, from the best relative to the other relatives.

The reason why I say not everyone in your family can be your friend is that some family members can be poisonous. Surprisingly, your own brother may turn against you and decide to kill you.

The second category is your best friend; this type of a person who accepts you the way you are without any conditionality. He/she always gives you morale when you feel discouraged. I can say this person is like your destiny helper.

I don’t deny the fact that some of us maybe having more than one best friend, but there is that one person who you can run to anytime you need him or her. Its very rare for this person to disappoint you at any instance.

 

Everyone in this world has this kind of a friend, and it’s hardly to find best friends not communicating for more than four days. So it’s our responsibility to pray for them and do anything possible within our ability to keep these people because when one loses this kind of a friend, it will be next to impossible to find another one.

The third category is open in such a way anybody can come in go out but with conditions. These are friends who believe in you and rectify you when you go wrong, a good friend  MUST rebuke you when he/she thinks that you are doing something that is unacceptable in the society.

Now its upon you to discern and decide which friends you should give a vacuum of tolerance. Because there are people who don’t deserve your company at all! Even Jesus had to choose twelve people to help him with his ministry.

You cant expect to be wealthy, and yet most of your friends are poor. They wise say “if you walk with nine poor men, be careful you don’t be the tenth one”. This is nothing than the whole truth because there is influence in friends.

The last category is the category of other people; in this group people can come in and out but no conditions are taken to considerations. These are people who don’t add any value in your life, they are just there to distract you from reaching your destiny.

We need to know who should be in which group; because people have different character and that is who they are.